actually seek to court a particular woman, and even more, search for a wife. At that session I charged the men not to leave that night until they had asked a woman out on a date. I also figured she probably had lots of other suitors. Whats going on here? Some folks blame pornography and surmise that many men prefer fantasy to real women. We are living in a very strange world. Back when I was in school, I had several young women who wanted to signal me that they were interested. For example, if a young woman sees a young man she would like to have ask her out, perhaps she can go right up to him and say, Its alright to ask me out. So this was important information for me that she was interested, and I acted on it immediately. He was then supposed to bring her back to her own home at a reasonable time.